Saturday, July 18, 2020

The Big Back to School Discussion

Over these past few days, we have heard about many State's and Counties's approaches of re-entering the school year. Our school year starts on August 3rd here and just now, the school board informed us (still many details are missing) of how they plan to progress with re-opening the schools in the district this fall. The teachers and school administrators have received the same information this week as all the parents and cannot provide us with any more details than what the school board outlined in their presentation. Now we parents are to decide with the information we have on hand and what the CDC/ TN Government updates us daily with in relation to Covid cases in our area what the best/ safest way for our children is to start school again. 

Let me preface that I totally understand and agree that not all children are safer at home: too many children suffer hunger, abuse and emotional disconnect. School would always be safer for these children than staying any minute longer home. 

However, for the majority of students the parents have to make a decision whether schools are safe enough and risk exposure to a deadly virus in a State and County where infections rates/ death rates/ hospital admissions continue to rise daily to send their children on a hybrid schedule (meaning 2 days a weeks at school and the remainder virtually from home) or complete Virtual Learning from home for at least the first 9 weeks of the school year. We are to decide within a week of which option to chose. Furthermore, some people think both options are not working for them at all but rather advocate for full-time school schedule. It doesn't matter which approach we choose, we will not be able to satisfy everyone. 

Do we want to keep our children away from others and social interaction, which the students have been lacking since March and is a big part of their emotional and physical well-being or keeping them away from massive daily exposure as students (and probably staff/ teachers - the school board is still deciding on that, which in my opinion shouldn't be a long debate since we have a mask mandate in place in this County) will not be required to wear masks at school. I know the mask issue with young children is a concern for many but clinically speaking, all studies prove that wearing a mask will reduce infection rate of Covid-19 drastically. My children for example had no issue wearing masks for 3 hours in the heat at the zoo. It is all a matter of how to prepare them and giving them times in between when it is safe to take off the mask and breathe freely. In addition to that, here are the concerns of a medical professional/ school nurse when children return to school:

Our principal posted a blog post this week about the importance on bringing children back to school and their social interactions with each other. However, the blog post missed a major point: of how the school would keep them safe and not at a greater exposure risk. I do understand that a principal wants the children back on campus and keep his and his employees' jobs, but then you also must provide us with what "risk management" steps you will take. As for the great track record, I have a different view on that: Given that 56 Kindergartners out of 96 were all out sick for several days  in January due to the flu/ strep and many had it multiple times between January and March, the administrator never supported our call for a day of closing the school to deep clean, such as other districts did.  Could this happen again when someone tests positive in the classroom? What are the measures then to prevent further spread? How would we be notified, etc? Unfortunately, TN is very politically guided and masks/ safety measures are often neglected because people rather support certain politicians/ agendas or trying to make a statement (mask wearing is one of them), which makes the decision of how to handle the re-opening of the schools an even bigger issue.  

In addition, I was NOT impressed of how our school and the district handled the transition of at-home learning in the Spring. The teachers were told not to provide anything to the students as the district, finally, after a few weeks of sitting at home, offered some OPTIONAL learning supplements. Optional because they did not want to create any advantages/ disadvantages among students who have/have not internet/computer access at home. However, after talking with several parents of students in schools in the same district, some were provided with much more materials from their teachers with the backing of their principals and even offered daily zoom follow-ups etc. Ours only did a once weekly zoom call, which was pretty much show-and-tell. Luckily, we were prepared and used many of the workbooks and supplements I already had at home for the kids and also added some more online learning options to the mix. Because while we worked, we had to ensure that the children are stimulated and kept busy for 2-3 hours a day while during the other hours they played, went outside or we did something with them. 

Thus, I'm nervous of signing my children up for the Virtual Learning Option as I do not know yet what it all encompasses except for 6.5 hours of structured session that are "subject to compulsory attendance requirements, formal grading and that parents will be responsible for monitoring student progress" (SCS Pathway to Re-entry). Grading and compulsory attendance requirements, I think are less important, especially given the fact that no child will spend 6.5 hours successfully in front of the computer. Here are the two options as outlined by the School Board:
As you can imagine, I have not much hope that this hybrid schedule or the Virtual Learning Option will work very well. Especially, since our Covid cases continue to rise and hospitals are running dangerously low on ICU beds. I fear that sending them back to school would increase the infection risk too much for our liking (no proper cleaning in between sessions/ no mask wearing/ not enough available substitute teachers, etc), especially since we believe that Elliot brought the virus home from school in March (after talking last week with another parent in his class who confirmed the same) and the fact that we have been thru it already and I know first hand how sick it made me. And then you are still left with virtual schooling 3 days a week...For the Virtual Learning Option, the approach looks not like it is very productive for an elementary school student either as there is no segregation of materials for children who are advanced or children who need more support in addition to the fact that the children would be taught by someone who is not from their school. 

For us, we have decided to rather be safe than sorry and not risk any more exposure but to keep the children home longer and TRY the Virtual Learning Option. However, I'm also in the process of preparing for other homeschool options in case the virtual route ends up being a disaster. In the end, we all have to decide what works best for our family. As a parent, it feels like a struggle because whatever we choose, in the end we will worry if it was the right decision. Nothing this year has and will be "normal" and we take that and make the best of this situation. 

PS: As other generations before us have done for months and years on end (think WW1 and WW2), children have adjusted to their circumstances and I believe that for 6-12 months without proper public schooling it would not create any long-term hurdles for them in life. This re-opening of schools is more so based on getting adults back to work if children can attend school. However, a lot of companies will continue with tele-work and employees will continue to be home and while it is not ideal to have the children home and work (believe me, we are doing it on a daily basis), everyone can agree that it does help reduce the spread of Covid-19. 

Friday, July 17, 2020

A Week of "Normalcy"

This week, both children had "summer camp" and it almost felt like a normal week in the middle of summer. Both kids have not been with any friends or much out of the house in general since March 13th. So it was a big week for them and nerve racking for me. However, with the settings and limited amount of people they were in contact with, I calmed down and let them have a fun week. 
Amelia attended for the third year in a row a private art camp. This year, there were only 12 students and masks were required as well as lots of disinfecting. Nonetheless, my little artist enjoyed the 7 hours a day she got to spend painting, sketching, crafting, molding and being with peers her age. Here are some of her finished products. Many more came home and found already a spot on Daddy's office wall and her room. 
One afternoon, I picked her up and we stopped by at the Y Pool and the Farmer's Market. Homemade ice-cream was surely the right decision on that hot afternoon. 
It just worked out, that Elliot had that exact same week camp at his Kindergarten teacher's house. Together with his 3 buddies from class, they spent 7 hours at Mrs. King's house where they did many amazing things. First of all, Mrs. King has 7 children of her own, so there are plenty of kids to play with. But she also has a huge yard, a pool, trampoline and planned lots of fun activities. 
Each day the children also did some academic lesson and then painted, made a bird feeder or went on a scavenger hunt. 
 
They even went blueberry picking today. These were delicious. 
Thank you, Mrs. King for a fun-filled week. Elliot is sad that his year with you got cut short but this week made up for it a bit. 
Both kids had a grand time and with the safety measures in place, no one got sick. They surely slept well at night and were exhausted from so much fun. 

Saturday, July 11, 2020

Living the Good Life

While it is sizzling hot here in Mid-Tennessee, we go to the water. On Wednesday evening, we packed up the fishing rods, chairs and children and headed to the lake for some evening fishing. 
Learning how to master the rod from his daddy:
Little man reeled in his 4th fish. It was too small so he released it back in to the lake but he was super proud of catching it. 
Amelia was less lucky but still enjoyed trying it and wading in the water:
The sunset and scenery was beautiful and very relaxing:
Great way to end a hot summer day. But all this heat is good for my vegetable garden. Everything is starting to get bigger and ready for harvesting. This was Thursday's harvest:
My friend Bettina and her daughter (one of our "safe" people) stopped by spontaneously on Thursday afternoon. She loved the kitten. If you ever wonder, an almost two-year old and a 17-week old kitten are on the same level. 
Friday after lunch, we headed to the Y pool. The kids love jumping in and practicing their swim skills. This summer, Elliot is so close to passing his swim test. The early bird gets the whole pool to themselves (pictures from 2 weeks ago):
While there were more people here yesterday, it still felt like we had enough room to ourselves to ensure social distancing (the chlorinated water also helps). I even got to swim for 30 minutes. Afterwards, the kids were ready to relax a bit:
 Freckles, tan lines and smiles:
This is how we make the best of this summer!

Sunday, July 5, 2020

10th Anniversary and Fireworks

On Friday, Derrick and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary. I can't believe it has been 10 years since our beautiful wedding day in Germany. I still remember it like yesterday despite that the day passed by so quickly. But so did these past 10 years: 2 children, 5 moves, 3 different States, new jobs, our own home but the wedding dress still fits.
Now:

Then:
I'm married to the man of my dreams, the one who walks By My Side (our song by Tenth Ave North) thru joy and happiness and despair and sadness.  I'm proud to be his wife and to be the one who raises these two children with him. Derrick, I love you always and forever!
There were no gifts or flowers but a day spent together as a family. We enjoyed a delicious lunch with King Crab Legs and champagne and a visit to the jewelry store to get my rings combined into one (something I wanted for a long time). 
Since our wedding day, thanks to my father for the surprise gift, and the fact that our anniversary is the day before Independence Day, we always get a fireworks show. Despite all the firework show cancellations in the city due to Covid-19, we made our own little fireworks show. 
And once the children were in bed, we turned up the music and danced under the stars in our front yard. It was the perfect day and I will always remember it. You are the one I need to go to bed with every night and wake up to!
Happy Birthday, America! Our 4th of July was nothing special except we had to purchase a new washer and dryer and digged for some worms in the yard. While it was a super hot day, we decided to avoid crowds by staying home. Popsicles and then Hamilton on TV while playing Monopoly and ribs for dinner...all American day. 
Today, we planned on going to the beach but thunderstorms were in the forecast for late morning, so we just headed to the creek near our town. The water was refreshing and it was so peaceful. While the children caught some crayfish, the adults waded in the water. Next time, we will bring a chair and a cool beverage. 
Happy 4th and we hope everyone enjoyed a fun and safe weekend!